The pace at which friends can become enemies and partners become strangers, due to the size of an antler or some other pseudo hunting success, is downright astounding.
To think that a deer could distort someone’s reality to the point of forsaking a friend can only be described as absurd. The idea that an animal with bone on its head offers one the right to treat another with contempt is the epitome of insanity. But when a jealous bowhunter sets his eyes on a few minutes of self-promotion—it can happen.
Bowhunter jealousy is a sad reality.
Jealous bowhunters are all the same. As long as your so-called successes don’t outnumber theirs, they’ll keep their negative comments, barbed innuendos and double-edged tongue in check. If you’re not a ‘threat’ to their perceived domain or ego, friendships will continue and hunting property can be shared. But if your hunting opportunities, set of antlers or hunting gear is deemed bigger or better, someone who suffers from green-eyed jealousy will find every reason to ridicule and crucify.
But, have you ever stopped to think how ‘stoopid’ jealousy is? Stooooooopid with multiple o’s!
So What Are You Saying, Oh’ Jealous One?
I recently read a public comment regarding Cameron Hanes in which a jealous individual wrote, “The guy buys his clothes at Baby Gap. What is he 5’2?” What about the outdoor writer who penned, “Bulking up, Cameron Hanes-style, may impress the ladies and flabby desk jockeys, but is all show on the mountains.”
These comments took years of discipline and self-sacrifice to pen. (Sarcasm intended!)
If I had the opportunity to talk face to face with the jealous writers, I would ask why they wrote what they did? Did they really think Hanes would stop exercising every day because of the comments? Or were they suggesting if Hanes was 5’9 and weighed 340 pounds they would be impressed? Or just maybe they thought Hanes would revert to being ‘average’ if someone took the time to post something juvenile!
What was the purpose behind the public ridicule? What were they saying?
When bowhunters make snide remarks about one another what’s the point? When they downgrade bowhunters like Tom Miranda or Chuck Adams, what is the objective? Do they expect Miranda or Adams to take their trophies off the wall or give up bowhunting because someone’s jealous?
Why is it if someone gains a sponsor or gets paid to do what they enjoy doing in the outdoor industry, it invokes infantile comments. Even someone’s ability to buy a new bow can earn them a cold shoulder and a, “Must be nice!” Or how about when someone simply wants to share some hunting photos and receives the remark, “Do you ever work?”
Why would any bowhunter ever wish failure on someone who shares the same discipline? Jealousy is downright stoopid!
Be Your Own Man
It seems jealousy is a born out of insecurity and self-pity, but when it exhibits itself in gossip and slander it personifies immaturity. And this type of behavior has no place in the hunting community.
As bowhunters we need to be happy with who we are and be willing to celebrate one another’s successes. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses. All of us excel at something.
I’ll never run like Cameron Hanes. I’ll never shoot like Levi Morgan. I’ll never write like Steven Rinella. I’ll never have trophies like Tom Miranda. And I’ll never have as much money as Willie Robertson.
Does my lack in running, shooting, writing, hunting, or owning, mean I have a right to use a a jealous tongue to butcher those who are better than me? The answer is, no! Just because my personal achievements will not match those of Hanes, Miranda, or Adams does not grant me the right to be jealous.
If I allow myself to be governed by jealousy, I’m not only stoopid (with two o’s), I’m insane and will soon self-destruct.
When someone is a better bowhunter, archer or outdoorsman, why not be happy for him or her? It’s not a reason to demean them.
Be Happy For The Other Guy
Yes, I know stoopid isn’t spelled with two o’s. And neither is success.
You can’t be successful by being stoopid—or jealous. And you can’t promote this great disciple called bowhunting by being either. So, isn’t being happy for those who have more, know more, or do more, the right thing to do?
Bowhunters share a unique discipline that should unite us. Not divide us. We need to see our diversity, strengths and weaknesses as what balances out the team, not as detriments to the whole.
So get over it! Someone will always be better than you at something. Besides, what kind of a person wants to see someone else fail?
We are in this together—let’s act like it!
17 thoughts on “Bowhunter Jealousy Is Downright Stoopid (With Two O’s)”
Well written piece, and truthfully, the single biggest problem I have with the hunting community. The judging and infighting is childish, absurd, and enough to make me want to beat people with a sack of spoiled oranges…
At least you had some mercy and used oranges! : ) Thanks, Trent! May God help us to rise above the nonsense.
The competition in hunting is supposed to be between hunter and quarry. Not between hunters.
Couldn’t agree more!
You are right on, Randy. Thanks for writing this. We are each our own hunters challenging no one but ourselves, or at least that’s how it should be. The level of ‘haters’ in the industry is amazing to me and it saddens me to some degree that people just cannot be excited about someones successes. Support for one another is one key element a majority of us carry and I hope we continue to show it publicly.
Thanks, Al! You do a great job at supporting the ‘community’ and it is appreciated. I look up to you and always appreciate your positive outlook.
I would say you are completely right and I agree with you 100%, which you are and I do, but I know I have a tendency to make slight remarks against others based on things I see or have heard. I know its wrong for me to do that, but it happens. We can all agree that we are our own worse enemy in this industry. All the ammo needed for the anti’s out there can be found in our own gathering places. We fight so much between ourselves, we can never win this war. Thank You Randy for getting this out. Its a great reminder for everyone, including me.
Thanks for the comment, Matt! You’re right, the outdoor industry needs to band together and be a community. Appreciate what you do for the industry and keep up the good work.
What a great post, Randy! These are important thoughts. Thanks!
Thanks, Zeke! Seems to go along with yesterday’s devotional.
I needed this. Great job!
Thanks, Mike! We all need this.
Ok here is the thing my buddies and I that I hunt with are my brother and my brothers I served in the military with. Now we talk unbelievable amounts of smack to each other on how we will shoot the biggest buck this year. Who has the hottest spot. Who shot what last year ect… But that’s because of the brotherhood we have not once has it ever been driven to the breaking of the bond we have. If someone sticks a pig we are the first to congratulate and probably drool on the monster they got. However where the side bar comments come me from towards the “pros” is because 1st off female hunter awesome my wife is working on learning how to bow hunt. But when some chick shows up in a bikini the suddenly has her own show as she has been doing it for years but only knows the lines they feed her and a high fence hunt yea it’s annoying. The other is because someone has big name instantly they pick up there own show you n hunting again high fence feeder hunter. I don’t care who you are but if you show up to a spot that has a feeder like clock work and the scouting already done for you. You best be shooting monsters every time. That’s where people lose faith and filter (of the mouth) to these so called Big shots. Yea people are going to sling comments because some (not all). Could out hunt a show host any day of the week. Because they put the time In and do the work know the land and know the animal they are after for more than a week prior to the hunt.
This is nothing new, the buck brings out the bad, been saying that for 20 years…
Great insights Randy… I personally know Cam and he is a great guy. As for the Outdoor Industry and challenges among hunters, it is the reason I became a Chaplain for the Outdoor Industry. Hopefully we can be of some help. Blessings Brother ! Kerry @ManUpOutdoors
Thanks, Kerry! Really appreciate the comment, along with all you do within the outdoor industry.